My home quickly accumulates paper, books, photos, and unfinished projects. On any given day my brain swirls with to do lists, frustrations, happy thoughts, and random ideas.
Somewhere in all of the STUFF (mind and closets) there are sparks of joy. Would you like to join me in cleaning the clutter?
I am honored to be the keynote for this year's Sisters In Spirit conference: A Year of Peaceful Intentions on Saturday, February 6. We will start with mindfulness in the morning and take a mid-day break with the magic of tidying up. In between there will be great sisterhood with women of all ages and break out sessions to help you grow and learn.Call (405) 366-7616 for more information.
I can calm my mind, clean my space, and find joy this week.
Showing posts with label Marie Kondo. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marie Kondo. Show all posts
Monday, January 25, 2016
Friday, April 10, 2015
Marotta meets Kondo: The Language of Change
| Before Marie Kondo February 2015 |
What could a 53 year old psychologist from Oklahoma and a 30
something professional organizer from Japan have in common? We speak the same language. The language of change. Marie Kondo is empowering people to transform
life through clearing physical clutter – my spin is to shift perspective by
letting go of thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that no longer serve us.
Marotta and Kondo are both aware that incredible change is possible when you
have the right tools. But you have to be
willing to do the work.
Kondo’s book The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up came at an opportune
time as I find myself somewhere between “emptying” and “feathering” my nest. She struck a chord when she detailed that the
point of tidying was not to be measured by how much you throw away, but instead
to intentionally surround yourself with the things you love. With this bliss in
mind I began to apply her method to my clothes, which is where she recommends
that we start.
It was the perfect rainy weekend. Step One I gathered ALL of my clothing into
our guest bedroom. Kondo urges her
organizing clients (now readers) to gather all of the items in a specific
category together to complete the project all at once. If there is a clothing item that is missed in
this broad sweep (think closets, laundry room, hooks, etc) of your home it is
supposed to be given away. I am not
brave enough to show you the picture of the heaps of garments that overtook the
guestroom. The excess, mistakes, waste and multiple sizes that made up my
clothing choices from past to present were all sprawled out.
Step Two involved holding each item in my hand and
evaluating if it “sparked joy.”It was oddly reassuring to check my gut for an
opinion.
Many of my clothing decisions were outdated, they literally
no longer suit me. For years these
choices took up space in my closet, unseen, but definitely felt as I tried to
hang up new purchases. At the end of the
day . . . four bags of clothing to donate to charity and two brimming trash
bags of torn, worn, and stained flotsam.
A strong theme throughout Marie Kondo’s guide to zen
organizing is the energy you will derive from thorough tidying. Her cultural perspective of energy is fun to
think about. According to her philosophy
all items have energy. When you surround
yourself with items that bring you joy, you are energized and happier in your space. When your space is filled with items that no
longer spark that loving feeling you are drained of energy. I waited for the energy after completely
revamping my clothing category. Instead
I felt exhausted. It was harder than I
thought. In the back of my mind I
worried that I had “let go” of something that I loved, or that I might need
someday. The parallel to therapeutic change was glaring.
It has been two months since I began my magical tidying. My wardrobe pallet is completely changed,
dressing is simpler, and I love every single thing I wear. I’m feeling the energy now.
After my clothing category I tackled my bathrooms, and my
true nemesis: paper. The before and after
pictures tell only half of the story. The mind shift towards simplicity is even
more impressive.
| After Marie Kondo February 2015 |
| Zen Organizing a la Kondo 2/2015 |
My response to empty nest is still evolving, but focusing on
what remains instead of what has been lost is a delightful blend of
peacefulness and excitement. If you are facing a life change I would strongly recommend the orderly advice of Marie Kondo. Let your external space
reflect your internal change.
It is a language we can all benefit from at
various points of our journey.
| Happy Tidying! |
Thursday, March 19, 2015
Birthday Presence
| The Gift of Birthday Cupcakes 2015 YUM! |
Have you ever had an unexpected gift? Maybe it was disguised in a strange shape- or maybe your first instinct was to return to sender. But then time reveals the true gift.
This is my “birthday week” so I thought I’d unwrap a few with you.
I am grateful for:
“Distraction”
This is where most of the other gifts have originated. In
the process of blogging I have cultivated an interest in mindfulness. Taking
time to set an intention for the week for you has given more clarity to me. The mindset of being present to this moment has great
implications. Look for more mindfulness on the blog as I begin more formal
mindfulness education on April 10th at a seminar in OKC. I am happy
to share my “present of presence” with others.
“The Hangries”
Sweetness asked me to discuss my "hangries" at my annual physical. He noticed that a late night, or delayed travel that changed meal times did not bring out the best in me (to say the least). I became snappy, irritable, and RAVENOUS. Turns out that what I thought was a temporary problem to endure (menopause) was a treatable problem- hypoglycemia. A nutritionist confirmed the diagnosis and helped me develop an eating plan of smaller, more frequent meals. I celebrate Nutrition Awareness month with dramatically improved energy and healthy weight loss!
“Detours”
I have been in the company of a wonderful group of writers
for over 10 years. Several of our
members have published traditional books and are actively writing. I went into this adventure
with the expectation that I would be more “successful” at writing. Blogging was an unexpected plot twist. I am undergoing a massive paradigm shift in defining writing success. Renewed
creativity is a gift.
“Clutter”
A client and Amazon recommended a book to me that made a strong promise and hit a definite chord. The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo …. My aha moment: I have a problem of abundance Despite the habit of regular donations of used clothing and household items, there is never enough storage. Too much stuff is too much stuff no matter how cleverly you organize it! I have begun my quest to reduce my home base to the zen like simplicity of my lake trailer. Simplicity is a gift.
This post is an attempt to be generous with my gifts in the hope that they will create a framework of unexpected gifts in your life.
I am grateful always for your readership and shares.
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