Stinking Thinking is a lot like weeds. You don't intentionally plant them, it is often a mystery where they come from, and if you aren't paying attention they choke out all of the good stuff. Strolling past my side garden I was horrified to find my rosemary bush overrun by weeds. I had planted this little bush to add fragrance to the garden and to spice up my cooking. Clearly I needed to pay attention to the weed problem. It was time to get my hands dirty.
I tackled the project by evaluating:
What is good?
What is bad?
What can I do to prevent this from happening again?
While I was hard at work on weeding the side garden, I turned to my mind garden. Borrowing the negative thinking from last week's post I tackled that project as well:
I evaluated my stinking thinking:
What is good? It is good for me to assess my motivation and behavior when stepping on the scale yields unexpected results.
What is bad? It is unhelpful for me to shame myself. Name calling and "Always" and "Never" statements are rarely truthful. Being mean to myself does not help me behave in healthy ways.
What can I do to prevent this from happening again? This was the trickiest part of weeding for me, in both gardens. I had to make a Loewe's run to get good soil for prevention, and yanked out a rotting rail road tie that was past usefulness. With my stinking thinking I brainstormed some options: Track on paper instead of on my phone so I can add notes to myself, shop for seasonal fruits and veggies because I have burned out on grapes and carrots, get a new pedometer to motivate my movement, weigh in without watching the scale so changes have time to register, talk to my meeting leader to get more ideas . . . the list continued while I sweated through the side garden.
That feels a lot better! Notice that the rosemary bush is leaning a little from the stress of growing around all of those unwanted weeds. We do that too with the negative thinking in our mind space- it makes us very vulnerable to the elements.
Empower your personal growth- I wish you luck weeding out the stinking thinking in your mind garden this week!